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Lost and Confused

Mon, 11/18/2013 - 12:50
So I have had epilepsy since I was six months old. I am now in my thirties and I have been in a relationship for the past eight years and we have two kids together, I recently had a seizure that made me lose my memory and made me not be in love with the man I have been with. Before the seizure I got invited to an old friends birthday party and I started talking with this old friend again. At the party we each found out that when we were in grade school we each had a crush on each other and that he still has a crush on me till this day. After that I started acting differently and made plans to hang out with this old friend. Who has been looking to move to Colorado since the end of September.    During my seizure I kept getting flash backs. I could not tell if I was with my kids dad at home or in the emergency room with my old friend. The next day after the seizure I started to lose my memory and I ran to the familiar which just happened to be my old friend along with someone else and even though he won't admit it I think it made my kids dad jealous. At the time my kids dad and I had an open relationship. The only rule we had was no kissing the other person. I made plans to see this old friend before I had my seizure and I told him about all this and he wanted me to feel what it was like to be with a man who treats a woman right. So I did end up kissing him. I chose to be honest and tell my kids dad the truth and that I kissed my old friend. After he found out that I did not even feel bad about breaking the rules and feel sorry for doing it he broke up with me then tried to get back together with me a few minutes later. He is  saying I cheated on him with my old friend. Then he gave me an ultimatieum. Either I stay friends with this other guy or I be with him.  I have been told that my kids dad is not the greatest guy. He has a temper on him and he has no problem sleeping with women he is not in love with. He has physically abused me.  I have been told that because we have kids together we should stay together, but I have also been told that we don't have to stay together for the kids. If I chose to leave I am afraid to take the kids with me and live on my own because of my epilepsy. I have a friend that would be willing to take me in but has no room for my kids. It does not help that my dad is saying that if I left without my kids I would be leaving them. Is he right? I don't know what to do anymore. I am unhappy but don't want to leave my kids. Lost and Confused


Re: Lost and Confused

Submitted by mereloaded on Mon, 2013-11-18 - 19:58
That is a tall order. You have to know whether you can be a competent parent on your own without help. many people with epilepsy have children and raise them. Think about what is best for the children first and for you second. In all honesty, it seems that you think than he grasss is greener on he other side? Either way, proceed cautiously and think it over and over, but always put your children's well being first.

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