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Accusations of Suicide

Wed, 03/07/2007 - 09:57

Topic: Women With Epilepsy

Hello. My name is Kaitlin and I am 17 years old. I was diagnosed with epilepsy in the fall of 2006 and was put on Keppra. Keppra made me sick so I stopped taking it without telling my Mother -- bad idea, I know. One night I went to bed early because of another fight between myself and my Mother. I woke up the next morning to find broken blood vessels on my face (you know those things you get when you throw up sometimes?). I went to my Mother and she accused me of choking myself. I will not lie to you, I have never choked myself, and yet my Mother will still tell me she "Knows" I did. We wen't to my Neurologist doctor (who is very nice to me) and convinced my doctor I did "put a lasso" around my neck. So, the neurologist told me not to touch the Keppra for a while. Now, I am scared, because I could have another seizure at any time. Is this right? Am I supposed to not trust my Mother? Is she supposed to accuse me of wrong when I have done nothing? Can anyone help or leave some advice? -Kaitlin

Comments

Re: Accusations of Suicide

Submitted by JNapper on Thu, 2007-03-08 - 00:59

Hi Keitlen. I'm sorry to hear you are having problems with your mother. I write this as a 36 year old woman who has grown up as most teenage girls do, having conflict with their mother, thinking she knows nothing, but needing her at the same time. I know it's difficult. There must be more to your relationship with your mom that is making her feel suspicous about you. Don't argue this incident to death with her over what she thinks you did and what you want her to believe. Like the saying goes, don't beat a dead horse! Get her to trust you in everyday things. Let her know it's important to you that you have her trust. I can not imagine life without my mom. She is my best friend, and remember that your mother is also your friend. She's not just someone to tell you no and make life difficult for you. A mother loves you more than anyone else. I hope your are able to work things out. ~ Julie

Re: Accusations of Suicide

Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 2007-03-08 - 05:48

Sorry to hear of your difficulties. Having seizures as a teen can add real challenges to mom/daughter relationships and just life in general. Manytimes people find it helpful to talk with a counselor or doctor who understands seizures, moods, and other teenage concerns. They can help the teen as well as the whole family look at how it affects them and what to do. Ask the doctor if he/she can refer you to a counselor or psychiatrist. Better to check things out now and get the right help, than NOT get help! At same time, it's important for everyone to talk to the doctor openly about what they are feeling and doing. Stopping medicines without advice can be dangerous. Vomiting is something the doctor would want to know about too. If people are feeling unsafe for any reason, talk to your parent or another trusted adult. If this doesn't work or can't be done, go to an emergency room to be checked out.

I find it helpful to remember that usually parents are really worried about their kids and the seizures. Coping with it can be hard for them too. Getting the right help will help everyone.

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