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I amworking on my seventh book would you like to be a part of it
Thu, 02/03/2005 - 13:40Topic: Corner Booth
My goal is to teach people to build the inner power to do anything or become anything they want in life. My approaches for dealing with disorders, illnesses, tragedy ect...My next book will show people how to reform a better direction in their everyday life of living and dealing with their life. These techniques will also be valuable to friends and family members.The program I have created will help people so they can build confidence in themselves. Once they establish self-assurance, the reader will start to see their inner strength boost. When one quality improves, all their other attributes will enhance also.The book I wrote will give them the tools to learn how to love themselves and their life so the reader can live on a positive note. The reader can make life anything they want if they have positive goals to focus on and if they have a good understanding of how to approach them. Words of wisdom will give the reader the materials they need to gain encouragement and strength to live life to its fullest. In the book, I want to be able to focus on peoples stories how they had certain things in their life happen to them, how they cope with it, and what they learned from it. I am looking for positive stories to help readers understand that life goes on and that we shouldn't dwell in our sorrow. One of my main goals in this book is to help the reader recognize that life has much to offer. Life does not have to cease just because you have some type of problem illness, disability ect... As I mentioned earlier, in this book we will be discussing what people go through emotionally. We will be going over different ways to help the reader emotionally, physically and spiritually.Many people, who have written to me, have given up their goals and expectations in life. Their attitude about life is very negative. Many people have given up because they feel they have too many limitations and restraints. Countless individuals who suffer from some type of tradegy and think that they can never accomplish their goals and dreams in life, but I am here to tell you that this is not true.My aim is to show people how to live with their disorder, disease, disability ect... empowering them to take responsibility for their life and well-being.In my book I stress that there is a deeper level of human experience that is necessary in order to live positively. Unlike other books, "Words of Wisdom" tries to motivate people, urging readers to create their own unique journal by employing psychological and spiritual practices in combination with a variety of more traditional diet and exercise regiments. While seemingly revolutionary, my message is simple: It is important that people learn how to live with their obstacles and endure it. Everything you do and say affects the people around you.Eventually, if people do not learn how to deal with their obstacles, they could end up really destroying themselves emotionally, physically and spiritually. One way to prevent this from happening is to develop a lifestyle that is suitable for your own needs. We need to make sure that our lifestyle that is going to make us happy over time. The book needs to show people that they need to be their own designer, creating pathways to a fulfilling future. There is a whole world in front of you. This world has millions of opportunities just waiting for you to encounter. It does not matter what age you are. You can achieve anything you put your mind too. "Words of Wisdom," will be for individuals who want to look at the bright side of the rainbow. It will focus on the facts of the connection between the mind, body and spirit, showing readers to live a positive, productive life. The book will be written in an informal but authoritative style. It will have many inspirational letters written by people who have had life changing obstacles and have been able to accept themselves, love themselves and learn from the drama( become a mentor for others). Discussing how they have overcome their obstacle and gone on to live healthy and productive lives. Subsequent chapters will deal with the mind, body and spirit connection, and the role of motivation, self-esteem and faith. In order to help readers reduce stress and learn how to incorporate their obstacles(issues) in their life so they can live with their life, feeling good about themselves. I show how they can create their own “personal journal" that combines use of positive imagery, relaxation, meditation and exercise.The book will include my own personal experience growing up with epilepsy and how I overcame the disorder. Through your own experiences and encouragement you will offer readers a variety of strategies for coping with their life. "Words of Wisdom," will present readers with a workable program for coping with their problem and forming a healthy relationship with their mind, body and spirit enabling readers to overcome their obstacle and get on with their lives.I hope you will participate and I look forward to hearing from you. You can see more of my work on www.authorsden.com/staceydchillemiAbout Me:I have epilepsy for about twenty-eight years. Between my background and experience interviewing hundreds of "wonderful people," I have learned many people feel alone, angry, insecure because they don't reach out and look for help and support. It doesn't have to be that way. My aim is to show people to live positively, empowering them to take responsibility for their life and well-being. I have written a book called "Epilepsy You''re Not Alone." The book motivates epileptics, urging readers to acknowledge that there is a deeper level of human experience that is necessary in order to live with epilepsy. I am a writer and I have published a book called “Epilepsy You're Not Alone.” Epilepsy You're Not Alone is an inspirational self- help book that teaches people with epilepsy how to live a healthy and productive life. The book shares encouraging stories and gives readers a workable program for coping with their disorder enabling readers to overcome their disorder and get on with their lives. I have a third book coming out this fall called “Epilepsy and Pregnancy: What Every Women Should Know”, Co-authored by Dr. Blanca Vasques. Through my efforts, I have been able to show other women that it is not impossible to become a mother. I have given women and couples hope and a new look on life. Epilepsy is just a disorder. Your life does not end because you have epilepsy. I have a forth book coming out in the fall of 2005, called “Eternal Love: Romantic Poetry That Comes Straight from the Heart”. I have a fifth book coming out called, “Faith, Courage, Wisdom Strength and Hope: Inspirational Poetry that comes from the Heart”. And a sixth book called "Keep the Faith."Accomplishments: I am an H.O.P.E. Mentor, for the Epilepsy Foundation. I speak at different events for schools, organizations, political events and anywhere my help is needed to educate people about epilepsy. I have recently been on four talk shows. The interviews focused on the importance of understanding what epilepsy is, how to help someone having a seizure and giving people with epilepsy encouragement and hope for the future. I have been on radio stations discussing epilepsy and I have recently appeared in many newspapers all over New Jersey such as, The Leader, Belleville Post and the Star Ledger. On June 26, 2002, I was honored an award by the Epilepsy Foundation of New Jersey for Outstanding Volunteer Award and I spoke in Washington in front of congress. Stacey ChillemiIf you would like to share your story, please feel free to e-mail at staceychil@aol.comIf you would like to learn more about me my website is www.authorsden.com/staceydchillemi
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RE: RE: I amworking on my seventh book would you like to be a pa
Submitted by staceychil on Tue, 2005-02-01 - 12:28
Learning to accept that I had epilepsy was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. For years I was denial. I didn't want to think thank I was a little different. I wanted to believe that I was just like everyone else and if they could do it so could I! If my doctor told me not to jump off of a diving board I would look for the tallest diving board to jump off of. I was angry, a very independent person who didn't want to reley on anywone but myself. Until one day I was in the car(driving) with my boyfriend(now my husband) I was driving and I went into a seizure. I headed straight for a telephone poll. My husband who is 6ft 235lbs, said my muscles tightened on the wheel and my foot went straight down on the gas pedal. He said fighting to get control over the car while I was in the seizure was worse then fighting a man. he said my strength was unbearable. I'm 5'2 132lbs! I got my license taken away and I relized I was not like everyone else. I could of killed my husband and myself. From then I had to relie on everyone else. that was hard for me. as i said before i like to be independent and not have to ask others for help.I started feeling sorry for myself then one day my epileptologist put me in a study group and I saw so many others far worse then myself. Some had brain damage from the seizures, some had 60-120 seizures a day, some were so medicated that they slept the day away or their speech was impaired. I could go on.I learned from that moment that I should not feel sorry for myself. I should be grateful that my epilepsy is 85% controlled with medicine. That I could function well. from that moment on I decided to not focus on the negative, but focus on the positive.That's when I went to a book store in college and their were no book at that time on epilepsy. They had 5 books all written by doctors in medical terminology. This was before the internet! So I got mad because if you were not a doctor or educated in the medical field, you had know idea what they were saying!So I wrote some articles and asked for people with epilepsy to contact me who had epilepsy because I wanted to write a self help book on how to cope with epilepsy.I took 5 years. I interviewed between 3-400 people. I learned so much about myself, others. How different generations, nationalities delt with epilepsy, there inner feeling. so much. Not only did I help others. I helped myself and from that moment on I realized my true purpose. I believe we all have a purpose. I believe god gives us all gifts. Mine was to help others by writing and specking verbally from the heart.When I interviewed so many people a majority said the same thing, "nobody understands what I am going through, my family, my doctor's ect.. they care but they don't have it, they don't know what I go through emotionally.This is why support groups are important, communities, books, conferences ect.. we all need each other.
RE: I amworking on my seventh book would you like to be a part o
Submitted by gracie on Tue, 2005-02-01 - 13:41
i am interested in becoming part of your research.My name is Grace and i am 30 years old. Been diagnosed since 1997 although the cause and length of time i have had the condition is unknown. possibly since birth.I am far from being controlled.
my email address id rotheryg1974@aol.com
i am interested in becoming part of your research.My name is Grace and i am 30 years old. Been diagnosed since 1997 although the cause and length of time i have had the condition is unknown. possibly since birth.I am far from being controlled.
my email address id rotheryg1974@aol.com
RE: I amworking on my seventh book would you like to be a part o
Submitted by kareninpoway on Tue, 2005-02-01 - 11:53
Hi Stacey,
I applaud you for your work...sounds wonderful! I am 48 years old, and have had epilepsy for only 5 years; it was the result of a car accident; gotta watch out for those 13-year old kids out joyriding in their parents' cars! lol Anyway, needless to say, it has changed my life. My condition has "changed" (I just hate the word deteriorated!) to the point where I can no longer work at the job I love, and this was the final blow to my independence. Although I had not driven in 5 years, at least I was able to ride the bus 2 hours one way to go to work, but in November of 2003, I had to give it up - - physically I just couldn't do it any more. Prior to getting epilepsy, I was condidered a "subject matter expert at work" for an international company, and I oftentimes flew to meetings across the U.S. to manage important projects worth millions of dollars- - I felt needed, I felt useful, and then suddenly I couldn't go to the grocery store alone.
Although I usually have an outgoing personality and look at the bright side, this change in my lifestyle devastated me on so many levels. I missed my independence, I enjoyed my job and colleagues, and I was not financially prepared to stop working so early in life. So, how do I cope?
Two things get me through it: An understanding that I now have a "new normal", and humor. Humor is self-explanatory; you can laugh or you can cry, you can whine or you can try - - I prefer to be someone that people like to be around, so I use humor to get me through the tough times. My "new normal" has been a more liquid thing - as my condition changes, I allow myself to expect less of myself - - it doesn't mean that I don't always give my all, or try my hardest at things, but I now accept what I can and cannot do, and realize that I cannot do things that used to be easy for me (like juggling 10 multi-million dollar projects). Basically, my standard has changed, and that's ok, because I have changed. My house is no longer spotless - - I prefer to spend the energy I have talking with my family, instead of scrubbing every corner - - my house is not a pigsty, but neither do I stress over every little speck of dust.
So, Stacey, by using humor and recognizing and accepting my "new normal" I am able to continue life's journey without wigging-out that I don't do what I used to do, and will never be able to do again.
Keep writing...I love to read! lol
Karen
Hi Stacey,
I applaud you for your work...sounds wonderful! I am 48 years old, and have had epilepsy for only 5 years; it was the result of a car accident; gotta watch out for those 13-year old kids out joyriding in their parents' cars! lol Anyway, needless to say, it has changed my life. My condition has "changed" (I just hate the word deteriorated!) to the point where I can no longer work at the job I love, and this was the final blow to my independence. Although I had not driven in 5 years, at least I was able to ride the bus 2 hours one way to go to work, but in November of 2003, I had to give it up - - physically I just couldn't do it any more. Prior to getting epilepsy, I was condidered a "subject matter expert at work" for an international company, and I oftentimes flew to meetings across the U.S. to manage important projects worth millions of dollars- - I felt needed, I felt useful, and then suddenly I couldn't go to the grocery store alone.
Although I usually have an outgoing personality and look at the bright side, this change in my lifestyle devastated me on so many levels. I missed my independence, I enjoyed my job and colleagues, and I was not financially prepared to stop working so early in life. So, how do I cope?
Two things get me through it: An understanding that I now have a "new normal", and humor. Humor is self-explanatory; you can laugh or you can cry, you can whine or you can try - - I prefer to be someone that people like to be around, so I use humor to get me through the tough times. My "new normal" has been a more liquid thing - as my condition changes, I allow myself to expect less of myself - - it doesn't mean that I don't always give my all, or try my hardest at things, but I now accept what I can and cannot do, and realize that I cannot do things that used to be easy for me (like juggling 10 multi-million dollar projects). Basically, my standard has changed, and that's ok, because I have changed. My house is no longer spotless - - I prefer to spend the energy I have talking with my family, instead of scrubbing every corner - - my house is not a pigsty, but neither do I stress over every little speck of dust.
So, Stacey, by using humor and recognizing and accepting my "new normal" I am able to continue life's journey without wigging-out that I don't do what I used to do, and will never be able to do again.
Keep writing...I love to read! lol
Karen