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Husband w/Epilepsy & no sexual desire.How to have a baby then?
Tue, 12/05/2006 - 10:12Topic: Men With Epilepsy
Hello.
I'm 30 years old and my husband is 32years old.We are from England. He has epilepsy since he was 6month old. At the moment he is taking Phenytoin (250mg/a day),Tegretol (600mg/day), Keppra (1500mg/bd).
I want to be pregnant but over last year and half we had no sex as he does not feel like to do it.
I've read in this website that many mens sexual life has been affected due to medication.(good to know that i'm not alone in this case and sad to know that IT IS a problem for many men and not much talked/informed about it)
Is any of you in this situation? Has any of you benn in this situation? We are seeing the neurologist in few weeks time but i need advice from people who is/was in same situation?
How was your problem been solve?
What can you advise me?
Changing the drugs is an option but the sexual life won't get back to normal over night.
I really want to have a baby and naturaly.....have thought about IVF but would like to avoid it if possible.
What can you advise me?
Thank you very much.
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Re: Husband w/Epilepsy & no sexual desire.How to have a baby the
Submitted by wldhrt13 on Tue, 2006-12-05 - 10:58
Geez, that is a tough one, and tough to talk about as I am naturally sort of repressed and Victorian. But, in the sake of helping out someone, I'll go ahead and share. I am not on medication, awaiting results for suspected TLE, and I have historically had NO sex drive. Except for the very beginning of my long term relationships, I have always had a "lowered libido." I can only tell that what perked up my libido was sort of venturing out beyond the usual ho hum practise of sex. DISCLAIMER: I am not saying any of these suggestions will "fix" anyone's sex life, I am just merely reporting what made my drive return, after I had thought I was sexually dead. For example, once I was returning from the beach and my man was really rearing to go, I was like, "we are in a car!" and he was like, "okay, so pull over." So we did, and maybe the added element of being in the woods close to the road and "not wanting to get caught" really worked? Anytime there was spontanaeity and impulsivity with regard to sex, I always got fired up. Camping trips with brief nude nature walks at midnight, skinny dipping, shared showers. I also tried watching a few pornographic films together with my man. NOTE: I had always protested them as debase and denigrating to women etc...But after I gave the watching a whirl, I was surprised to find that my body responded. They make all kinds of adult "toys" out there too, which range from tame to tantric. We bought some type of flavored lotion that heats up with "motion". LOL. We also tried whipped cream and warm chocolate and that was pretty fun. Really, if you are serious about saving the in-vitro as a last resort, just try things that all fall under as I put it.....thinking outside the sexual box!
Hope this helps,
~pamela
hi Anie
Submitted by paul050772 on Thu, 2012-12-20 - 06:03
Hi Anie, i realise you wrote this some years ago but just wondered how things are today? my wife has uncontrolled epilepsy and has been on/still on simular meds to your husband.
Paul
Hi Anie, i realise you wrote this some years ago but just wondered how things are today? my wife has uncontrolled epilepsy and has been on/still on simular meds to your husband.
Paul