Relationships

RE: RE: Relationships

Submitted by batman on Mon, 2005-03-14 - 11:45

janb

Being a person who has epilepsy isnÂ’t greatly easy, but it isnÂ’t greatly hard either. I have epilepsy myself, now going on into itÂ’s 19^th year. IÂ’ve never been married yet but this may change within the next few years because of someone I have connected with via this community group AND the efa.org community group. I am a 36 yr old guy and with what youÂ’ve said, I would be willing to come into your life, but I canÂ’t. It has absolutely nothing to do with you having epilepsy. ItÂ’s because of the young 32 yr old lady [mexican_fire] who has come into my life and me into herÂ’s, which started just this past January.

I used to, but am no longer legally allowed to drive anymore yet. The last time I did, was when I had a complex partial seizure while driving and I ended up going past a stop sign, across a small town 3-way stop intersection and instead of turning left or right, I went directly across and plowed into a tree. This took place just a block from my house. I survived, but my truck did not. One of my main sources of transportation is with my parents and disability public transportation. Plus a bicycle and my two feet.

Right now, youÂ’re in a pause mode with your life, and I am too. So, maybe now, you can think about getting more involved in the hobbies you enjoyed to do before, but just havenÂ’t done for a while. Think about starting a new hobby. Become a local school to volunteer. Learn and study more details about epilepsy then go and teach the school teachers, staff and the parents of other children who may have epilepsy. Do this and go to the school where your own kids are at, then you can be with them more than just weekends. Become a mentor and more involved in a local epilepsy support group.

The more that youÂ’re involved and are around people, will lower that feeling of being lonely. You are not sick in health, you are perfect. If you donÂ’t think or feel that youÂ’re not perfect, then go complained to God for what HeÂ’s done.

Try as hard as you can and do not give up on yourself. DonÂ’t look at what you cannot do, look at what you can do. You have 2 children of your own and theyÂ’ll both need you, their mommy.

"I don't care what other people think, for I know who I am.

God never gives you more than you can handle.

He knows YOU can do it, the other's can't...

That's why they don't have it."

Bruce CJ

RE: Relationships

Submitted by Cedar on Mon, 2005-03-14 - 12:18

we are wonderfyul people with a chronic medical problem and we deserve love and relationships. I share that the one stable thing I do have other than a 36 year history of seizures, is a long standing loving relationship with someone who loves me for all I am. I am not able to work as I might like, I have only come to really understand what is the cause of my seizures in the last year and that they are not fully controllable. But I do have a person in my life that I am proud to be with for the last 14 years. Yes, it can be easy to want to push people away out of our embarassment of our epilepsy, however, we do deserve someone to love and to love us as we are. I would hope that if you have found that person who wants to be with you that you would be willing to let her in and do what you need to to heal the feeling of needing to push her away. Intimacy is never easy and I speak for for myself here when I say I have a hard time sharing myself but after realizing how special it is to have found some who will do anything for me around my seizures I can not imagine giving that up. I hope you can allow yourself to let her love you, you are worth it!!