sex drive

Amen!

omg... i thought i as the only one with this problem. i started epilim(sodium valproate) at the end of nov and since then ive had sex twice. before i took the tablets, i was having sex 3 times a week and i thought it was all in my head!

I'm 37 years old and have been on some form of Tegretol since I was in my early teens. I'm now on TegretolXR, taking 1000mg a day, plus Topomax for migraines, plus Lexapro for depression. All three of those are libido killers.  I can't really remember ever having a great sex drive but I remember it being better than it is now, which is completely dead. I have said to my poor husband of 15 years the same thing I have read over and over here "I don't care if I never have sex again." It is wrecking our marriage that I feel that way. He doesn't understand. He thinks that I should just do it anyway.  I have such a negative attitude toward sex, I can't even explain it to him. We've talked and talked a lot about it recently. There have been many tears because divorce has come up over this issue.  I feel so messed-up in the head. I've always been ashamed to discuss this with any of my doctors at all, but now I feel backed into a corner and I'm having to do so. I called to make an appointment with my GYN today. He's well aware of how many meds I'm on. I'm not sure what, if anything, we can do about it. I've got an appointment coming up with my neuro's office.  Again, what are my options?  I'm also trying to make an appointment with a therapist to discuss all the mental issues that go along with this.  15+ years of denial isn't a pretty thing.  I just want this to go away. I have prayed for God to fix this. I can live with the epilepsy but I don't want this part of me, the sexual part, to be broken. I love my husband. We have two beautiful children and we are compatible in so many other ways. It feels so unfair that this struggle is happening to me, to us. And I feel like it is my fault.