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Question on dating with E.
Fri, 09/29/2006 - 04:56Topic: Women With Epilepsy
My cousins down here have been texting me on my cell phone telling me that I have passed another birthday and I should get a boyfriend now and get married. But, here's my question.....how do you trust a man to date when you have epilepsy? It's not so simple for me to just find a man down here in the Philippines and start dating. Maybe in romance novels it could work, but there's just so many issues for me to overcome.
Besides that's a big responsibility on a man to take when he hears about E. I don't want to see the reaction like I have before when I told men I've dated in the past that I have E. They did a complete turn around in behavior. They started to treat me like I'm fragile. I don't want that. I'd like to have some kind of normalcy.
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Re: Re: Question on dating with E.
Submitted by louielou on Fri, 2006-09-29 - 12:57
I also agree. I waited before telling my husband when we first started seeing each other, partly coz i wasn't sure how he'd react but partly coz i thought there's no point if we don't end up together anyway!Did have one experience with one bloke i was seeing when i was younger. I didn't tell him i had epilepsy as it was early days. A couple of weeks in he told me a 'joke' about an 'epileptic girl'! decided not to totally humiliate him by putting him straight but needless to say we didin't last any longer! His loss!!!X
Re: Re: Re: Question on dating with E.
Submitted by seizuregirl on Sat, 2006-09-30 - 11:02
Don't u just hate insensible people? You know, what I would have done was tell him that I had seizures then dumped him right there. I would have been very satisfied with that action :-)
Anyway, a lot is going against me aside from seizures when it comes to dating. I'm in a foreign country. Imagine being an American citizen in the Philippines? I work here.
First, I worry about men and how they would react to my seizures and second, I worry if they really are interested in dating me or if they have different motive for wanting to be with me 'coz I can be their ticket to the U.S. Things like this happens everyday down here. It worries me.
Seizuregirl
"Life is what you make of it"
Re: Question on dating with E.
Submitted by ladybug on Fri, 2006-09-29 - 07:58
Hi, I have to agree with fzmousie on this one. Way back when I was dating, I remember waiting at least a couple of months before telling the one I was dating. I just wanted to feel them out and get an idea on how they would react to something like that. Some might say I waited too long to tell them, but I, like you, didn't like how I was treated after telling them. It was my way of seeing if this was something that I could share with a boyfriend and be treated as normal. If it wasn't then that guy wasn't for me.